Thought awareness, rational thinking & positive thinking
Controlling Internally Generated Stress
These three related tools are useful in combating negative thinking. Negative thinking causes stress because it damages your confidence that you are equal to the task you face.
You are thinking negatively when you put yourself down, criticize yourself for errors, doubt your abilities, expect failure, etc. It is the negative side of suggestion - it damages confidence, harms performance and paralyses mental skills.
Thought awareness is the process by which you observe your thoughts for a time, perhaps when under stress, and become aware of what is going through your head. It is best not to suppress any thoughts - just let them run their course while you observe them.
Watch for negative thoughts while you observe your 'stream of consciousness'. Normally these appear and disappear being barely noticed. Normally you will not know that they exist. Examples of common negative thoughts are:
Make a note of the thought, and then let the stream of consciousness run on. Thought awareness is the first step in the process of eliminating negative thoughts - you cannot counter thoughts you do not know you think.
Once you are aware of your negative thoughts, write them down and review them rationally. See whether the thoughts have any basis in reality. Often you find that when you properly challenge negative thoughts they are obviously wrong. Often they persist only because they escape notice.
Positive thinking and affirmation
You may find it useful to counter negative thoughts with positive affirmations. You can use affirmations to build confidence and change negative behavior patterns into positive ones. You can base affirmations on clear, rational assessments of fact, and use them to undo the damage that negative thinking may have done to your self-confidence.
Examples of affirmations are:
Traditionally people have advocated positive thinking almost recklessly, as if it is a solution to everything. It should be used with common sense. No amount of positive thinking can make everyone who applies it an Olympic champion marathon runner (though an Olympic marathon runner is unlikely to have reached this level without being pretty good at positive thinking!) Firstly decide rationally what goals you can realistically attain with hard work, and then use positive thinking to reinforce these.
Thought awareness, rational thinking and positive thinking are three closely connected tools which help you to eliminate thought patterns that damage your self-confidence and cause you stress.
With thought awareness you observe your own thinking when you are under pressure, and spot negative thoughts you would otherwise not be aware of. These may often come and go in an instant.
With rational thinking you look at the basis of these negative thoughts, and challenge them rationally. Where the thoughts are obviously wrong, you can eliminate them. Where the thoughts may be fair, you can work on the problem to eliminate or neutralize it.